If you don’t love and respect yourself, then neither will anyone else. And no, loving yourself isn’t just about taking bubble baths and getting a pedi (although it helps to clear your mind and relax you) – it’s a bit deeper than that. It means that we are able to successful recognize our emotions and that we treat ourselves the way we would treat someone we love. So when we face struggles, failures or mistakes; we react with compassion and kindness instead of judgement. It means that we accept ourselves as we are so we can live authentically without molding to someone else’s expectations. It means that we are able to love our imperfections and bodies as they are, without tearing them apart every time we look in the mirror. It means recognizing when we need a break and pampering our mind and body (aka rewarding ourselves for hard work).
In other words, we have to learn how to put ourselves first often. We have to be self-aware of our behavior and thought-pattern (as I discuss in my e-book). I’m no expert on self-love and I’m definitely guilty of being too hard on myself sometimes. This happens because I always expect perfection from myself in whatever I choose to do. This adds a ton of pressure to the way I live daily. I used to be so hard on my self physically, mentally, and professionally. I would literally end up burning myself out every other week as a result. What a sad and unproductive way to live! Thankfully though, I was able to recognize this behavior and catch myself before it became a habit. Consequently, I made the decision to embark on my own little self-love journey. And here is how that went:
I decided to choose myself first, even if it means canceling plans, leaving a party early, or not fitting in with a crowd
I decided to respect my body and give it the nurturing, care, rest, and exercise it needs to support the daily demands I put it through
I decided to dress myself with clothes that make me feel good, not clothes that are on trend or are ‘acceptable’ to others
I decided to make more time for myself to do more of the things that bring me happiness
I decided to accept myself as I am physically and to stop tearing myself apart when I look in the mirror
I decided to accept people’s criticism and learn from it, but never label myself by it
I decided to stop asking for permission and seek approval to be and act authentically
I decided to take responsibility for my life, to push myself to grow and achieve my full potential, to learn, to live new moments, to meet new people, and to experience more things in life
I decided to give myself an outlet to express my creativity
I decided to respectfully stand up for what I believe in, even if it means speaking up for myself
I decided to build a life with love without relying on others for happiness
I decided to congratulate myself if I do a good job with something, or if I achieve a mini milestone
I decided to trust the life path I chose to be in, while making a genuine and conscious effort as the co-creator
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And lastly, I decided to love and accept myself, even if I slip in my self-love journey
Self-love is an inside job. Nobody can offer these inner feelings to us, only we can. But want to know the best part? Well, the best part is that self-love has a spillover effect. As soon as we begin feeling positive inside, it translates into other areas of our lives. The way that it can change your life is truly incredible. I’m excited to dig into this a little more with you next week, where we will embark on a 7 day self-love challenge together. STAY TUNED and GET READY because I’m coming for ya next week!
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What is your definition of self-love? I’d love to hear your thoughts on this.